Timeline on Marriage

I have witnessed the outcome of not only my failed relationships but my family and friends relationships. I’ve known people to be with a man over 14 years; the only thing missing from their relationship is a marriage certificate. A majority of the women dream of being married one day so they just hope their man will propose. Hope is not enough ladies. I mean wouldn’t it be easier to let your man know that eventually you want to get married so he knows what you are expect out of the relationship?


I did a poll on facebook and twitter and asked women what is the longest period they'd wait for their man to propose/marry them and is there a time limit? I got all kinds of answers. A majority of the females said three years is the max. After three years you should know the person well enough to marry him. Others said seven to seventeen years. My jaw hit the pavement! There is no way in hell I’d wait that long. First off a man will do what you allow him to do. If you have no expectations from him then why would he marry you? So many men go with the flow because women are afraid to speak up. Don’t be scared of his response because you need to know if marriage is something he wants as well. If not tell his ass to kick rocks and try your luck again. Playing house from my experience is a trap. The term “wifey” got ya’ll waaayyyyy to pumped up. It is way better to be his wife legally. Ask Ivana Trump and Kimora Simmons lol!!! I can’t lie there are time I miss coming home to my man but at the end of the day it is not worth it to me. Eight times out of ten living in dick will remain just that. You are what you set your standards to be. With that being said if you’ve always lived with a guy or even with a roommate try living by yourself. I swear I discover more about myself each day because I made this exact move. Sometime the live in situations can make you lose your identity. You got to know yourself personally before you can show a man who you are. To me this comes with living alone.

When the woman told me she’d been with her man for seventeen years and had five children with him I instantly got upset. This woman gave her youth to you and barred your children. The thought of marriage should have been in your head mister. Hell that is just disrespectful smh. One thing I do know is that you can’t force a man to marry you if that is not something he wants to do. This is a life time commitment no matter how many divorces we see every day. That doesn’t mean your marriage can’t last. Don’t mix up other people’s problems in your relationship. Me personally I give a relationship a total of five years. The first two years we learn one another. The third year should be the proposal and engagement, the fourth year should be the wedding and moving in together and the fifth year should be pregnancy and having the baby. You got to remember that he has to want all of these things too are it doesn’t work. Beyonce is so right when she said a relationship is 1+1=2. Leave the world out of it. For the people that don’t believe in marriage I just believe that they still need to grow as an individual. Experience will make you wiser and you’ll see the qualities in marriages eventually.

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