Relationship Reality
We’ve all been in a situation where we just weren’t sure if we wanted to be tied down to someone or not. Just turn on any court show on television. Most of the people on there are getting divorced for some of the most ridiculous reason I’ve ever heard. I believe that most relationships today are full of games that constantly get played. How do we determine if are reasons to be with or without someone is valid? Well first off before you grasp hold of the title “relationship” make sure that you and your partner want most of the same things. It is impossible to be with someone that likes to chill at home all the time while you like to go out. Find someone that you can share these moments with. Compatibility is necessary.
Make a mental note in you head to not accept too many changes. The person you started off date shouldn’t be a completely different person now that you’re in a relationship with them but most of the time they are. It seems like once you commit yourself to your partner all the wining and dining stops. You have to keep your eyes open so you can be able to tell what’s real and what’s fake. Too many of us excuse the drama and bullshit your partner may eventually add to your life. Ask yourself is he/she worth the stress? If not then go on to the next one.
You can tell a lot about your partner by the women/men they’ve dealt with in their past. Think about it. If you dealing with someone that has crazy ex’s calling his phone and showing up unannounced at his home then something isn’t right! If he/she goes around telling anyone who will listen that their child/s father or mother is crazy then maybe the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. You’re not picking the same people with the same characteristics over and over again for nothing! Facts don’t lie so get out of the habit of sweeping them under the rug. The fact of the matter is that many couples would survive after the “honeymoon” phase is over but they don’t because of one thing, communication. I strongly believe that you should be able to tell your partner anything without sugar coating it. Realness is what completes a good relationship. That’s how most relationships last.
Don’t have sex with someone and think because the sex was great then the relationship should be too. WRONG! I see this every single day. I, myself am a victim of confusing lust with possibilities for the future. To even get to the relationship phase you have to do more then screw someone. I believe the term is called dating. Take her to dinner and a movie for crying out loud. Don’t just take her to Motel Six. There is not enough dating going on when it should be. We got to stop selling ourselves short. We have a bad habit of rushing to be with someone, rushing to have their child, and rushing into marriage. It’s time to chill out a bit and enjoy one another’s company. I know this is hard for most but it is so necessary. You will see the difference.
I know that in relationships there will always be ups and downs but I feel that we can control it better by always being on the same page with our partner. Being in a relationship is like a test drive a vehicle at a car dealership. It may run really good or you may hate the fact that it cost too much to fill up with gas. At the end of the day we each have to live with the choices we make. Always make them in a clear mind state because they can affect you and your future. Try being a little picky, it isn’t too bad.
Make a mental note in you head to not accept too many changes. The person you started off date shouldn’t be a completely different person now that you’re in a relationship with them but most of the time they are. It seems like once you commit yourself to your partner all the wining and dining stops. You have to keep your eyes open so you can be able to tell what’s real and what’s fake. Too many of us excuse the drama and bullshit your partner may eventually add to your life. Ask yourself is he/she worth the stress? If not then go on to the next one.
You can tell a lot about your partner by the women/men they’ve dealt with in their past. Think about it. If you dealing with someone that has crazy ex’s calling his phone and showing up unannounced at his home then something isn’t right! If he/she goes around telling anyone who will listen that their child/s father or mother is crazy then maybe the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. You’re not picking the same people with the same characteristics over and over again for nothing! Facts don’t lie so get out of the habit of sweeping them under the rug. The fact of the matter is that many couples would survive after the “honeymoon” phase is over but they don’t because of one thing, communication. I strongly believe that you should be able to tell your partner anything without sugar coating it. Realness is what completes a good relationship. That’s how most relationships last.
Don’t have sex with someone and think because the sex was great then the relationship should be too. WRONG! I see this every single day. I, myself am a victim of confusing lust with possibilities for the future. To even get to the relationship phase you have to do more then screw someone. I believe the term is called dating. Take her to dinner and a movie for crying out loud. Don’t just take her to Motel Six. There is not enough dating going on when it should be. We got to stop selling ourselves short. We have a bad habit of rushing to be with someone, rushing to have their child, and rushing into marriage. It’s time to chill out a bit and enjoy one another’s company. I know this is hard for most but it is so necessary. You will see the difference.
I know that in relationships there will always be ups and downs but I feel that we can control it better by always being on the same page with our partner. Being in a relationship is like a test drive a vehicle at a car dealership. It may run really good or you may hate the fact that it cost too much to fill up with gas. At the end of the day we each have to live with the choices we make. Always make them in a clear mind state because they can affect you and your future. Try being a little picky, it isn’t too bad.
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